Moves, marriage, children, job life.. all these things take a significant role in our 30s. Many put challenges and pressures on our friendships. In our 20s all we care about are our friends – but when life starts settling down and major changes get in the way how do you navigate your friendships in your 30s?

From someone with different friend groups with all sorts of life changes take it from me when I say it’s totally navigable but difficult at times to have friendships in your 30s. If you are struggling, take a breath and read along for my tips to work it out.

First of all, give yourself a break.

You are only human and you are doing a great job, regardless of what any of your friends say. Some friendships need more attention than others. If you are in a moment where more attention is not an option – do not fret. Your friend will learn to understand this.

In your 30s, bigger priorities come into play. Our attention to our own lives becomes important. This can leave friends feeling lonely. It is a hard transition, but true friendships will make it to the other side.

Next, you have to let your friends be themselves.

Know that if they are incredibly involved in their work then the co-worker happy hour will take precedence or if they just really enjoy relaxing at home with their new husband understand it’s nothing personal.

When you realize the nature of your friends you can appreciate them for who they are or aren’t. Then getting upset just isn’t necessary.

Remember, people do change.

Your friends may change. Learning to accept them through all the changes is an important part of long-lasting friendships.

Avoid the drama talk!!

Hopefully, this isn’t as common in your friend group. If you have a friend who has this habit tell them – “Yeah, I love you both and I don’t want to hear about this” or “Maybe you should tell them this”… Regardless of what you say it isn’t worth getting involved between friends.

Lastly, be intentional about your friendships in your 30s. 

As you get older, you have less time to socialize, so it’s important to be intentional about the friendships you choose to invest in. Make time for the people who matter most to you, and don’t be afraid to let go of friendships that are no longer serving you.

Soak up the time you do get with the friends you love!

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