Being a mother is one of the most rewarding experiences a woman can have, but it can also be one of the most challenging. With so many responsibilities and demands on your time and energy, it can be difficult finding balance in your life.

But it’s important to remember that you are not alone in this journey. I too, like many new moms, struggled with where to focus my attention. While preferring a tidy home and wanting to soak up every moment with my son, I felt like I was falling short. I also need me time and wanted my husband to feel important too. I became overwhelmed with finding a balance in my marriage, myself and motherhood.

One of the best things I did was talked to my husband about my needs. I let him know how I was feeling and what I needed from him in order to feel supported. It’s also important to find time for yourself, even if it’s just for a few minutes each day. This could mean taking a bath, reading a book, or going for a walk. Taking care of yourself will help you be a better mother and wife.

Finding balance in your life as a mother is not easy, but it is possible. With a little effort and support, you can find a way to make it all work.

Here are some additional tips for finding balance between marriage, motherhood, and yourself:

Make time for date nights. 

Even if it’s just once a month, make time for date nights with your partner. If finding a sitter is difficult make the evening special by doing something different than your usual routine. This is a great way to reconnect and to show each other how much you care.

Don’t sweat the small stuff. 

It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day stresses of life, but it’s important to remember that not everything is worth getting worked up about. Learn to let go of the small stuff and focus on the things that are important.

For myself, I had cut myself some slack on keeping a clean kitchen. Once I stopped spending all my free time on it I was able to make more time for myself.

Be grateful

Take some time each day to be grateful for the things that you have. This could be your family, your health, your home, or anything else that you’re thankful for.

Set realistic expectations

It’s important to set realistic expectations for yourself and your family. Don’t try to do it all perfectly. It’s okay to ask for help and to delegate tasks.

I’ve often put unnecessary stress on myself as a mother. I felt like I wasn’t doing enough for him, but this just isn’t true. Once I realized that I was just as good a mom as the mother online that bakes fresh bread with her kids – I began to feel more aligned and balanced.

Relax. You are doing great!

Prioritize your time

Make sure you’re spending time on the things that are most important to you. This may mean saying no to some commitments or activities.

I love going to First Monday with my mom and sister each month, but I have had to say no a few times because I knew getting a nap was going to be more beneficial to me when finding balance in my marriage myself and motherhood.

I’ve also caught myself scrolling on my phone during free time – then once my time was up (nap time was over). I would be annoyed with myself for not using my time more wisely.

Now, before I get caught in the scroll I ask myself is this how I want to spend this time? Sometimes it is and that’s just fine.

Take care of yourself. 

Get up and move around, step outside for some fresh air, or do something that you enjoy. Make sure you’re getting enough sleep, eating healthy foods, and exercising regularly. Taking care of yourself will help you be a better mother and wife.

Find a support system and don’t be afraid to ask for help

Talk to your spouse, family, friends, or a professional about your struggles. Having a support system will help you feel less alone and overwhelmed. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t be afraid to ask for help. There are many resources available to help you.

Once I was able to properly express my struggles and needs from my husband he was able to help. We prioritize quality time that way I can have more me time. I was able to let go of some tasks that he is willing to take on which has opened up more present time with my son.

Finding balance in my marriage, myself and motherhood is not always easy, but with the joy it brings the effort is all worth it.

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